How you relate to your experience is your experience. Appearing is always already happening. Experiencing is, most basically, an ongoing stream of appearing, the basic occurring of which is not subject to our will, and is that within which we exercise our will. There is always more appearing—always more that shows up that we did not author and cannot have pre-decided how we will feel about. We cannot stand outside of our experience and decide in advance what will be allowed to arise. In this…