You are meditating “incorrectly” if you are trying to become calm. You are meditating “correctly” when you notice that you are trying to become calm. COMMENTARY: Striving cannot secure the state it seeks because striving is already the pre-reflective organization of experience around what is absent, threatened, or not-yet-achieved. Desperately striving to calm one’s mind can reinforce the very lack of calm that motivated the quest for calm in the first place—just as the more desperate we want…