Self-acceptance is not something you “do”. Self-acceptance is the result of no longer avoiding your unwanted thoughts and uncomfortable emotions—the result of no longer avoiding yourself. Self-acceptance is what remains when you no longer instinctively avoid those aspects of yourself you don’t care for (or even wish didn’t exist). An instinctive desire to eliminate/smother/fix the (often unexamined, conditioned) discomfort of self-criticism or self-rejection keeps us anxiously looking out for…